A muslim Husband

No one ever thinks about the characteristics of a Muslim husband. It is
always what a wife should do for the husband...and the list never ends; home
management, tutoring, ferrying the kids, caring, cooking, cleaning, washing,
working, even ; you name it, she is doing it, so what about the brothers?
Our beloved Prophet SAW was not THIS lazy, so why the men of this ummah. It
is quite interesting, so I thought I'd share it with you !!! What a Muslim
husband should be like...

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last timeyou
went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look
nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too.
Remember that the Prophet (PBUH) would always start
with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her,
and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives
until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the
husband - until she does something to 'bug' him.
Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on
that.

4. Avoid too much complaint.
If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is
one of the ways the Prophet (PBUH) used when he would see something
inappropriate from his wives (R.A).It's a technique that few Muslim men have
mastered.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often.
Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine
life with her constantly seeing you smiling.Remember also those Ahadith when the
Prophet (PBUH) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salaah, even when he
was fasting.

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again!
Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home,
and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgment she
receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that
be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her
happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your
wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on
repeating those times in your life.

8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon
the requests of their wives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the
example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because, as she
said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and
brought her the camel.

9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (PBUH)
would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the last timewe did
something like that?

10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (PBUH): 'The best of you are
those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my
family.' Try to be the best!

In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua (Prayer) to Allah - ta'ala to make your
marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best!!